Pregnancy and Infant Loss Can Be Crippling l!
Going through a loss can be devastating with shattered dreams, hopes, and expectations. It makes feel like you are broken and a piece of your heart crushed. You’re not sure if you can keep going and might feel helpless and hopeless. The pain seems unbearable and you find yourself in your head, thinking of anything else but the pain and the emptiness. In the first few weeks after the death of a child, having a miscarriage or a still birth can be so very difficult for some people. Getting out of bed, taking a shower, eating, or brushing you teeth can feel too much. The emotional impact of loss can interfere with all areas of your life; your relationship, care of your other children, going to work, doing house hold chores and interacting with friends and loved ones. Some women experience PTSD, have night terrors or flashbacks. Others have intrusive and obsessives thoughts and "can't get out of their head." Others become destructive and even have suicidal thoughts. Many moms and dads can get stuck in grief and need help moving forward while still honoring the loss of their child or baby.
Grief can come in waves, it might have been months or years since your child passed, and the pain returns. You might be going through your day and get triggered by seeing something that reminds you of painful memories. A day that seemed being off to a good start can turn into tears and preoccupation. It is ok to honor your little one and never forget them. Being able to talk to others about what happened can be hard for you and for others to hear your pain. You might feel all alone, lost and confused. You might be frustrated with yourself because your expected yourself to be in a better place than you are now. Therapy can help by providing you a sacred space to work though your sadness and other intense feelings. As a mental health professional counselor, I am here to guide you though this process in a way that feels safe, that honors the loss of your little one and validates your feelings of love and loss.
After a miscarriage of pregnancy loss it is not unusual to feel: anger, overwhelming sadness, guilt, hopelessness, preoccupation with self blame, distress with memories of the physical loss, tension and stress in your relationship, withdrawal and isolation, fear about getting pregnant again, tension in your relationships with family and friends or having suicidal thoughts to self harm or to be with your baby again.
If you feel like any of this resonates with you, I are here for you. I offer in person and online therapy and specialize in helping parents. I am are here to listen, to just be with you, and help you find a clear way forward while also honoring and acknowledging your child. Please contact me and schedule a free 20-minute chat and we can answer any questions you may have, and just get to know each other to see if I might be a good fit for your healing.
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